Posts Tagged ‘Smile’


A Cole Fix

September 11, 2009


Yesterday was just one of those days.  Being a quadriplegic with all of the other surgeries piled on top from the car accident, there are just some days when you don’t feel well.  There’s not really anything you can do, it’s just part of living with a body that’s been battered and broken.

In many ways it’s kind of an odd feeling. I’m not sick, I just feel off.  There’s pain, but it isn’t specific to any area—it’s just low grade, and everywhere. There’s nothing that can be done, I just do what I can to get through the day. There isn’t any pill you can take it is just part of the package deal.

On top of all this everything just seemed to be going wrong, which made me really unproductive and only added to the frustration.

Kolette was gone for most of the morning, and had some projects to work on, so Coleman was at Nikki’s for the day (Nikki is the best babysitter in the world.  She lives just next-door, cares for Cole like he was her own, and is really flexible).

Ko got home from her boot camp and some errands at about 1:00pm.  She came in the door and I asked her if she thought Cole was up from his nap.  She said she had just talked to Nikki on her way home and he was.  I queried further asking if Kolette knew if he had eaten yet.  She said he was just about to—and that was when I told her I needed a “Cole Fix”.

It’s common terminology around our house for those times when you need to feel a little part of his gigantic spirit.

Kolette went to Nikki’s and came back with my boy.  As soon as his eyes met mine he had a big smile for me and his arms and legs started moving up, down and all around in excitement.  It was as if he knew why he’s come home.

I fed him his lunch, held him awhile and we sang some songs (although he needs to work on his singing abilities a little, usually he just leaves me hanging and I end up doing it all solo).

On his way back to Nikki’s, I felt better. This having kids thing is amazing.  I’m supposedly supposed to be the one providing all the care—and in the end it really seems as though he’s taking as much care of me as I am of him.

I love my beautiful boy.




The Simple Life

April 28, 2009
What a Smile!

What a Smile!

When you talk about people out there living the good life, Coleman J. Hall is at the top of the list.

Every morning a beautiful maiden comes to get him out of bed. That same earthly Goddess dresses and feeds him. She makes sure that he doesn’t have too much gas or too little nutrients. He naps constantly throughout the day, seemingly without a care in the world. At night this modern-day Venus bathes him, dresses him in his sleeping attire and holds him close, rocking him until he falls asleep.

Should he need something during the night all he has to do is simply call, and help will come. It’s like 24-hour room service. What’s more, is the whole thing begins again on the following day.

However, I’ve learned something watching Cole living the good life. As long as he’s fed, clothed, warm, with a place to sleep, a roof over his head and surrounded with love he’s happy. He doesn’t seem to care how fancy his bed is, he simply wants a bed. It doesn’t seem to matter much if the clothes he wears are name brand or not, he just wants something to keep him warm.

The make and model of his stroller has never been brought up even once. The same goes for his car seat and his toys. His standards are fairly loose when it comes to food. I’ve tasted the formula he eats and let’s just say it’s not filet mignon.

But, he’s happy.

Obviously, we all can’t live the same way Cole does. We can’t all exist literally without a care in the world. But, his way of life is a powerful example that teaches an important lesson (especially in today’s world with its accompanying uncertain economy).

It shouldn’t take much for us to find real, lasting happiness.

If we have a roof over our head, clothes to wear, food to eat and people who love us, we have more than enough to fill our lives with joy. We need to stop worrying about which name brands we have or what toys we don’t. We need to stop being frustrated that the raises in our paychecks aren’t as high as they have been in the past, and start being glad we have a job at all.

We have to stop believing that we can find happiness by keeping up with the Joneses. Coleman doesn’t even know who the Joneses are. We have to quit competing with others lives and start reveling in our own. We have to quit worrying about stuff and start concentrating on experiences. For, when we die the stuff stays here and the experiences come with us.

So, next time you feel a little down, remember Cole. And, if you’re eating, sleeping, bathing, loved, and not forced to spend an extended amount of time in a poopy diaper–find a way to smile. Find a way to be happy for the simple precious things. Find a way to enjoy the simple life.



A Wink and a Smile

April 2, 2009
I’m of the attitude that our joyful faces can change the days of the people in our lives.
There it is!

There it is!

Within the last few weeks a wonderful thing has happened at the Hall house–Coleman has begun the beginnings of a smile. It’s amazing the powerful emotions of joy his tiny upturned lips will bring to my heart.

We’re not talking about a full on smile. Were barely talking about a grin. Sometimes you have to look hard to see it, but it’s there. What makes it powerful though, is that it’s real. It’s more than the little responses he used to give because of gas, this is him actually responding and exchanging emotions.

Every time I see his little smile my heart soars. His little response can change my whole day. The changes in his face chase away frustration and bring a wonderful serenity.

But, I’m a believer that smiles can do that. I’m of the attitude that just like Cole’s tiny grin can monumentally change my day, so to our joyful faces can change the days of the people in our lives. As we come in contact with people we can lift their spirits the same way Cole lifts mine with nothing more than a little show of happiness.

In today’s world people see so much around them that is depressing and sad. Often times all they need to chase away the doom and gloom is the evidence of something beautiful and happy. Your smile can be that evidence. Your smile can chase away the darkness and bring on the sun.

Try it today. Remember Cole’s example and work to smile more. But don’t just keep the smile to yourself, be open with your joy, be willing to share your smile. For sometimes, the difference in someone’s day can be little more than a wink and a smile.


There it is again!

There it is again!